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So in my journey of living a simpler life I took notice of how often we use plastic as a means of “convenience”. For awhile I have been cutting back on living a disposable life. It has been hard but once I truly started taking […]



You hear people talking about Aloe all of the time, but it’s not some new trend. People from all over have been using Aloe. For burns, digestive benefits, skin care, etc. Suddenly more and more people are paying attention to it’s benefits. I think it’s […]



Your morning really starts the night before. The way you wind down for the evening has a direct impact on how your morning goes, and kind of the day as a whole. Taking time for yourself before bed is highly important. This is your time to just let go of the stress that has accumulated. I know this can be hard. I am one of those people who is always going a 100 mph. Multi-tasking champion. I think that is how a lot of women are. We take on so much and wear so many hats. Now I want you to put on your self-care hat and create a night-time routine. It will take some time for it to set it, but I promise you it will and it will be of a great benefit to not only your body, but your mind. What you choose and need to do is up to you, everyone is different. So follow what your body is telling you it needs.

Here are some things that make for a relaxing evening for me. I didn’t list my actual routine because it changes depending on my needs that day.

Mini facials. I like to give myself a mini facial that will sometimes include a K-Beauty mask. What I love about these masks is many aren’t meant to be washed off so that is one less thing I have to do. But I steep a cup of tea, put on some music I like, gather all my stuff, and give my face a little pampering. By the time I am done, My tea is ready for drinking. I already notice a huge weight lifted. It becomes ritualistic, that routine become comforting.

Comfy sleepwear. One day I will wear very silk lingerie another day super soft plush pajamas. One thing I noticed is they are always soft and breathable fabric. That is what really works for me. I like the feeling of coolness and softness of against my skin.

A good book. Reading helps me shut out the world. It takes me somewhere else. I usually am reading 2 books at a time. The day is business or self-improvement related, while at night I prefer fiction. It forces me to get out of work mode. Also helps with my creativity because now I have to envision these worlds the book is creating.

Tea. I probably drink too much tea but I love it. The taste. The aroma. It’s all so relaxing. My two favorites are both by Yogi Teas. Yogi Bedtime Soothing Caramel and Yogi Tea Herbal Stress Relief, Honey Lavender*. They don’t make me sleepy per say, but they do just relax my muscles which helps me to get comfortable easier and just chill out.

Fan. I have a thing with white noise and breeze. No matter how cold it is, I need to feel a soft breeze and I need a little white noise to help hush the noise of dogs barking, my cats running around like a bunch of crazies, and the occasional car.


What routine have you created? You you ever consider creating a bedtime routine?


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Water. Yep, that’s it. Okay, thanks for stopping by see you at the next post. Okay, okay there might be a little bit more. It’s true though, water is something that will make your mornings better. I always thought it was ridiculous and just a […]



One thing I was so excited about when moving to a house was the clothing line. I have always wanted a clothing line. I have always wanted my clothes out in the sun drying with the breeze. I didn’t really know why until I got […]



I wanted to start documenting my self-love journey which includes fitness so, as hard as this is, I felt getting my feelings, fears, joys, etc out would help my healing. I just lost my best-friend and love of my life all in one shot. No, he did not die but part of me wishes I would.

I had a break up. I know some may call my reaction silly and I can understand that, however, it is still a loss. The man I was involved with decided that due to our circumstances making it difficult for us to reach the goals we had for the relationship, we should call it quits but remain friends because you can’t just throw away 10+ years of friendship and love. Normally I wouldn’t agree but we were friends first and I highly valued his friendship. Well, apparently he no longer felt that, that bond was important or valuable anymore because just the other day he decided to end that as well. It came so sudden. Just a day or two before we were laughing, and talking about seeing a certain movie together, and telling me he loved me. Then BAM. It’s over. I felt and still feel worthless. Like just trash being tossed out. In this short amount of time I easily fell back into bad habits. I am still in a state of confusion. Wanting an answer as to why you could just turn your back on someone so easily and quickly. Wondering what I did wrong. Was I just not good enough? Was it all a lie from the get go? Am I not worthy of love & friendship? Was I not worth fighting for? Am I trash?

I feel lost. I am terrified. I know I will be fine, I know I’ll survive, but he had been in my life for 10 + years and suddenly he is gone. During the ending of our romantic relationship I started to gain weight again because I was letting the emotional stress of that and other stress run the show. I was already working on that when this blow came and I just wanted to give up. A large part of me still does, but there is this small part of me that wants to keep, well, living. She wants to stand tall, dance, sing, love….LIVE. So, I am going to try to only listen to her. I want to see how strong she can get. I can’t wait to meet her. I can’t wait for you to meet her. So with that, each month I will be checking in with my progress. Weight, measurements, fitness, mental health, etc. I am determined to live life. I am determined to love me above all else. This is going to be hard. I know it is. I have yet to have a day I am not crying. I hope this mountain I have to climb is really just a small hill.

MAY 1, 2018

  • Weight: 202.6
  • Height: 5 ft 3 in
  • Bust: 42 in
  • Waist: 40 in
  • Hips: 47 in
  • Thighs (L/R): 27 / 27 ½
  • Calves (L/R): 15 / 15 ½
  • Arms (L/R): 16 / 16 ½


I will add pics at next month’s check in so there is a comparison.

What are you restarting? Are you on a self-improvement journey? Let’s talk about it!

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I rarely read books writing by stars or well-known folks about themselves. I don’t know why I just never really had a desire to. I finally went against my normal routine and decided to get Shonda Rhimes book, A Year of Yes. I’ve seen interviews […]



I will confess, I am not a huge movie person. There are so many I haven’t seen and I am okay with that. There are a handful however that I must watch over and over. These movies some how still creates the same reactions as […]

Welcome to the new TheOldSilverOak

Welcome to the new TheOldSilverOak

Hi, Hey, Hello!

I want to welcome you to the new home for TheOldSilverOak. Blogger was my online home for so long that I really went through some hurdles to get this up and running, but I am so glad I took the leap and did it. This new space makes so happy and ready to share this new direction I and TOSO are going. A space to speak about slowing down and living life while enjoying it. My projects, photography, possibly crazy ideas, and of course….food! Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram as well. Let me know you found me through my blog. I’d love to say hello!

To old friends, thank you for sticking it out through all the growing pains.

To new friends, thank you for taking your time to be here.

A new adventure awaits.

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I rarely read books writing by stars or well-known folks about themselves. I don’t know why I just never really had a desire to. I finally went against my normal routine and decided to get Shonda Rhimes book, A Year of Yes. I’ve seen interviews with her and I have always found her entertaining and always felt like she was dropping little bits of wisdom every time she speaks. Plus I am not immune to the appeal of Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, and How to Get Away With Murder. I didn’t forget about Private Practice. I just don’t care for it.

At any rate I decided to take the plunge and got the book when I saw it on sale on Amazon. I grabbed the kindle version because I have been trying to scale down and I tend to collect way too many books. As I began to read I found myself getting bored very easily. Just like I thought, reading about someone talk about themselves is insanely BORING. At least to me it is. Then I get a notice on my kindle that I can get the audible version for like a buck. Again some special sale. I do love a sale. So with so many people saying nothing but good things about this book, I decided to give it another shot.

Let me tell you. Books where people are just talking about themselves are so much better in audio form! She has a way of talking that just makes you comfy. A bit of humor & loads of sarcasm (I am the sarcasm queen). She talks as if she is in a room with you having a casual conversation. A book that took me weeks just to get past chapter one was finished in a couple of days. I’d listen when working out, when crafting, when running errands. I laughed with her, I felt her insecurities, I loved every min of it.

This book isn’t some mind-blowing kind of thing, but it is a nice read/listen. Getting into her mind a little bit was nice. I would recommend this book whether you are a fan or not. If you are expecting secrets to success or a how does she do it sort of thing, this is not the book for you. If you are however, interested in a book that makes you smile, laugh, and nod your head in agreement and understanding. This is for you. It’s just simple a nice book.

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Have you read this book? What are you opinions?

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