A big part of depression is feeling really lonely, even if you’re in a room full of a million people. – Lilly Singh I apologize for my lack of posting. My lack of engagement. My lack of drive. It saddens me that I […]
It’s been awhile since I posted. I didn’t realize how caught up in other stuff I got. I have been keeping my hands in multiple baskets making it all work slowly but surely. I am not a eggs in only one basket kind of gal.
I also needed to take some time for me. You see I turned 40 on the first and that’s a big deal for many reason. Being single for the first time in years, finally loving who I am, embracing this milestone with grace and cupcakes. I honestly didn’t think I’d be okay with being 40, but some how I feel better than I have in years. I am looking forward to this next stage.
This was just a quick hello and check up. I will be getting back on track with posts so stay tuned.
Back in May of 2017, I rushed my mother to the hospital. She was vomiting even after having just water, extremely lethargic, and complained of pressure on her chest. Within 20 mins of filling out ER forms she was rushed into emergency heart surgery She was in active cardiac arrest. She had almost 100% blockage in the rear valve causing them to put in 3 stents. Between May & July, she was in and out of the hospital for various issues including fluid in her lungs, asthma resurfacing, heart beating too fast her body didn’t know what to do. I would like to say before I go any further she is doing amazingly well, so much so she has gone back to work albeit a lesser stressful position.
It all happened so fast. It was back to back, stuff. I never actually had time to process it all till around late August. Which is were I lost it. I mean totally lost it. I cried every day for about 2 weeks straight. I mean collapse in the shower screaming like a hungry baby crying. I was a wreck. I was scared of myself. I had never had such a rush of emotions hitting me with such forces, 24/7. I am still working through it, but I want to share with you my tips that helped me find some level of calm.
5 SELF CARE TIPS – AFTER A FAMILY HEALTH SCARE
- Knowledge Understand 100% of what is going on or happened Seriously. Make them ALL explain it to you in a manner in which you understand. Read everything they give you. No matter how scary some of it may sound and how disturbing the possible outcomes can be, having knowledge helps prevent your mind from going bat shit crazy.
- Team. Have a support team from all different directions. I am not that close with my family but I will admit me having to constantly report to them what was going on, created a routine that I needed at that time. The most important part of my support team was my best friend. I could just cry and not say a word and she was there. She didn’t try to drown me in motivational quotes or advice, she just let me breath. Breathing to me was just crying. I had to stay calm to make sure my son didn’t getting too worried, and I also couldn’t add to my mother’s stress having to worry about me. My boyfriend at the time was also a big help even though he became a bit of a punching bag for awhile. However his humor lightened the mood sometimes and it was more helpful than I realized at the time.
- Food. This might sound stupid but meal prep was a help. For days I didn’t want to cook, being able to just toss something in the microwave to reheat was great. So get some meal prep or freezer cooking done before the break down so it’s there. If a friend or family member has offered this, TAKE THEM UP ON IT.
- Quiet. I rarely turned on the TV or radio. I sat in silence a lot. I would go on line from time to time but still. Always silent. When something like this happens there is a lot of commotion coming at you from all kinds of directions and I don’t just mean all the stuff hooked up to your loved one in the hospital. Having time to just be in silence is amazing. If your quiet time is meditation, try to increase it. Really embrace the quiet.
- Routine. I felt like a chicken with it’s head cut off for awhile there until I forced myself o get back into my routines. 7Am-Coffee, News. Sunday-Laundry Day. Friday-Wash Dog. Etc, etc, etc. I felt like I had some part of my life that I was truly in control of while keeping to my routine. I also felt like everything is going to be okay because look I’m doing laundry on Sunday. This is normal. Everything is normal. Life is not spinning out of control. It’s a trick, I know, but it does help bring some calm. It helped. I really did.
I hope you don’t have to experience something like this because it truly is a whirlwind of wtf’s but perhaps this simple tips can help if you are put in a similar position.
Have you gone through a health scare yourself or with a family member? What worked for you? Please share in the comments and perhaps they will resonate with someone else.
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You hear people talking about Aloe all of the time, but it’s not some new trend. People from all over have been using Aloe. For burns, digestive benefits, skin care, etc. Suddenly more and more people are paying attention to it’s benefits. I think it’s the rise of everyone wanting to go natural and be healthier. Which is great! There is no reason to go out and buy ready made Aloe products. Aloe is by far the easiest plant I have grown. I still have Big Mama as I call her. Big Mama has been around for over 10 years and is still popping out babies and as healthy as ever! After I go through some benefits of Aloe, I’ll give you some simple tips on growing some as well as some great ways to use them.
As I write them I am recovering from a burn I accrued from simply not paying attention. My the fingers of my right hand were badly burned and in pain. It could have been worse but it was still pretty bad. I will have some blistering but thanks to quick thinking, my spawn and a sharp knife, my hand will heal just fine. I do not know what’s it’s like to live with Aloe and I don’t want to! Now it’s not just for burns, it just that people associate it with burns. That’s what most people talk about when Aloe is somehow brought into a discussion.
But there are more benefits. Let’s go over some.
Aloe may be 99% water but according to the Indian Journal of Dermatology, Aloe vera contains 75 potentially active constituents: vitamins, enzymes, minerals, sugars, lignin, saponins, salicylic acids and amino acids.4–6
- Vitamins: It contains vitamins A (beta-carotene), C and E, which are antioxidants. It also contains vitamin B12, folic acid, and choline. Antioxidant neutralizes free radicals.
- Enzymes: It contains 8 enzymes: aliiase, alkaline phosphatase, amylase, bradykinase, carboxypeptidase, catalase, cellulase, lipase, and peroxidase. Bradykinase helps to reduce excessive inflammation when applied to the skin topically, while others help in the breakdown of sugars and fats.
- Minerals: It provides calcium, chromium, copper, selenium, magnesium, manganese, potassium, sodium and zinc. They are essential for the proper functioning of various enzyme systems in different metabolic pathways and few are antioxidants.
- Sugars: It provides monosaccharides (glucose and fructose) and polysaccharides: (glucomannans/polymannose). These are derived from the mucilage layer of the plant and are known as mucopolysaccharides. The most prominent monosaccharide is mannose-6-phosphate, and the most common polysaccharides are called glucomannans [beta-(1,4)-acetylated mannan]. Acemannan, a prominent glucomannan has also been found. Recently, a glycoprotein with antiallergic properties, called alprogen and novel anti-inflammatory compound, C-glucosyl chromone, has been isolated from Aloe vera gel.7,8
- Anthraquinones: It provides 12 anthraquinones, which are phenolic compounds traditionally known as laxatives. Aloin and emodin act as analgesics, antibacterials and antivirals.
- Fatty acids: It provides 4 plant steroids; cholesterol, campesterol, β-sisosterol and lupeol. All these have anti-inflammatory action and lupeol also possesses antiseptic and analgesic properties.
- Hormones: Auxins and gibberellins that help in wound healing and have anti-inflammatory action.
- Others: It provides 20 of the 22 human required amino acids and 7 of the 8 essential amino acids. It also contains salicylic acid that possesses anti-inflammatory and antibacterial properties. Lignin, an inert substance, when included in topical preparations, enhances penetrative effect of the other ingredients into the skin. Saponins that are the soapy substances form about 3% of the gel and have cleansing and antiseptic properties.
There is no denying this plant is a superfood! Now what does all this mean? Well Aloe is just perfect for every part of your body! Drink it, put it on your skin, use it on your hair, even for those suffering with vaginal dryness and/or those wanting a natural personal lubricant. Really! A company called Good Clean Love makes an aloe based lubricant.
Now let’s get to the even better stuff. Ways you can incorporate Aloe into your life.
- Skin & Beauty
- Sugar Scrub
- Eat Aloe Raw
- Detox Smoothie
- Aloe Juice
- Strawberry Lemonade AloeSmoothie
- Soothing Cucumber & AloeEye Gel
There so many more ways to incorporate it into your daily life. Just search for what you want specifically and I am sure you will find it.
Now caring for an aloe is easy.
Aloes love sandy soil and medium dry soil. They do not like a lot of water but if you have them in sandy soil it will drain better. They grow easily in pots or in the ground. Stick some under a window to deter intruders. After all the thrones on this plant do hurt.
There will come a time you need to trim your plant down. You do not do it from the top. Dig up your Aloe and remove as many leaves as needed. Then simple cut the s talk. I know it make seem crazy. I promise you, the Aloe will be fine. It will grow roots again very quickly. When you place your Aloe back, be sure to stabilize it while it’s growing it’s roots again. Otherwise it will grow in a tilted position, so if you like that then don’t worry! They love sun, but will deal with partial shade.
How do you use Aloe? Have some recipes you liked to share? Let me know in the comments below.